The FemDom Ball 2024: Part 1
Madame Caramel, The Matriarch Ezada Sinn & Mistress Kennya at The International FemDom Ball 2024
Introduction
There are some weekends that transform you, that awaken something deep inside. The International FemDom Ball 2024 was one of those weekends - an experience that left its mark. So, allow me to share some of the insights and exquisite moments that shaped this glamorous and delightfully kinky celebration of Female Supremacy.
This blog series will chronicle my experiences and reflections on the extravagant events organised by the exceptionally talented Madame Caramel and her attentive team. Below are the schedule of events:
3rd of October: The Meet & Greet
4th of October: The FemDom High Tea
5th of October: The International FemDom Ball & After Party
6th of October: Fetish Markets: LAM & Boutique Bazaar
To describe The International FemDom Ball 2024 as a top highlight of my year would be an understatement, even amidst other significant successes. With so much that happened over the weekend - especially on the day of the Ball - I’ve decided to split my account into three parts. This first instalment sets the stage, recounting the delicious build-up to the Ball, including insights from the FemDom High Tea, where The Matriarch Ezada Sinn delivered a thought-provoking workshop based on her upcoming book “The World of Venus”. In the second part, I will share some exquisite details regarding the day of the Ball, and the third will unveil what really went on at the kinky After Party.
These posts will offer a glimpse into this opulent, fabulous and incredibly kinky weekend. While some secrets are best kept discreet, I’m delighted to share some inspiring, tantalising and unforgettable moments that I had the pleasure of experiencing.
My First Debut: The International FemDom Ball 2023
The anticipation leading up to last year’s Ball was electrifying, and this year was no different. Having known about this glamorous annual event for quite some time, I was thrilled to finally secure tickets for the 2023 International FemDom Ball and the exclusive FemDom High Tea. It was my debut, and despite being unwell, on antibiotics at the time, and attending solo, I couldn’t resist the chance to experience it firsthand and meet some of the remarkable Women I had admired from afar for years.
The experience was nothing short of incredible, inspirational and truly wonderful. At one point, I messaged my best friend to confess that there was so much happening, I felt the need to jot down notes just to capture it all! Ever the academic, I found myself studiously taking mental notes - even amidst such glamorous and kinky surroundings. Despite my less-than-ideal health at the time, the event was invigorating and sparked the confidence I needed to fully embrace my role as Queen Evergreen.
A collection of beautiful, badass and powerful Women at The FemDom Ball 2023
After such an extraordinary experience last year, I knew I had to return for 2024 - this time with the perfect companion. I knew exactly who I wished to accompany me: my executive assistant and devoted regular, S. Although he hadn’t been able to attend in 2023, he had generously funded my trip - including my beautiful dress and stunning Louboutin heels - and this year, he went above and beyond once again. When tickets went on sale earlier this year (and sold out quickly, as always), S graciously secured our spots for the Ball and ensured my attendance at The FemDom High Tea - a smaller, intimate gathering of powerful Women held in a luxurious venue in the heart of London that served as the perfect prelude to the main event.
My Executive Assistant
My darling regular, Silverback (S), deserves a special mention for his unwavering adoration and dedication. More than just a silver fox, I affectionately call him “Silverback” because he exudes big boss energy, with silver hair glinting across his strong physique, complimented by his charming and playful nature.
We met several years ago when he requested a steamy interview role-play, where I was applying to be his sexy and submissive personal secretary. It was clear from the outset that he was no stranger to conducting interviews, drawing on years of experience as a successful businessman.
However, that would be the first and last time that I played the submissive role for him.
These days, he serves as My executive assistant, serving and worshipping me as his Queen with complete devotion. I could fill a rather thick book with juicy stories of the passionate and luxurious adventures we’ve shared together. Since meeting him, my confidence and Dominance have flourished, whilst he has relished exploring his kinky side - far from the vanilla life he once led. After all his hard work and accomplishments, I’ve delighted in adding some sparkle and spice to his world, creating some scrumptious experiences together and filling our “wank-banks” with exquisite and incredibly hot memories.
Last year, I kept the juiciest details of the Ball to myself until we met the following month, using them to entice him into serving me at this year’s Ball. Although initially hesitant, he trusted me when I assured him that it would be a party unlike any other he had been to before.
As the Ball approached, the excitement between us was palpable. We had not seen each other in several months and we were both more than ready for a reunion filled with sexy shenanigans. With The FemDom Ball being a high-protocol event, where certain etiquette is required to honour Female Supremacy, S was naturally nervous as it was his first time attending such a gathering. I made sure to calm his nerves and reassure him that he was in for a night he’d never forget.
Executive Assistant Requirements
for The Ball
To help develop that sweet anticipation and ensure that he’d be rock solid for days, I informed S that I would be sending him a list of requirements and expectations regarding his behaviour on the Monday prior to the Ball. Whilst some have been omitted for discretion, below is the revised list:
I’m very much looking forward to having you serve and worship me throughout this weekend. I’m also looking forward to showing you off as my obedient executive assistant and super sexy Silverback at The International FemDom Ball.
You must be on your very best behaviour as only the best shall do.
Please review and respect the etiquette for the Ball on the website.
At the Ball, you must address me as My Queen or Your Hotness. As it is a formal occasion, do not refer to me only as Amber.
At the start of the Ball you must remain silent around others unless I give you direct permission. If I do not give you permission, you must stay silent or can whisper in my ear.
When I’m talking to others, you must stand slightly behind me, either looking down or just at me. I may require you to stand a bit further at a distance if the conversation I am having needs to be private.
It should go without saying that whatever you hear at The Ball stays at The Ball and only between us.
Particularly around others, you must open all doors for me, pull out my seat, hold anything I request and graciously do whatever I ask of you.
If someone needs help, please do be a gentleman and assist them. However, ensuring that my needs and desires are met should always remain your top priority.
I wish to receive many compliments from other Mistresses regarding how well you serve me.
Please dress to impress - your best suit and preferably black bow tie.
Whilst I am getting my hair professionally styled, you are required to gently steam my dress of any creases. I may have some other tasks for you to do whilst I get ready.
I’m feeling particularly lucky this year, so please bring enough cash that I will have the chance of winning some goodies in the extravagant raffle.
When I go to the ladies room you will wait patiently outside unless you also need to use the restroom. Please note, the ladies room can be quite the social gathering, so I may take a wee while.
We should also establish safe words for the evening: “Dirty Burger” to take a break, pull back and regroup. “Octopus” when it’s too much and either of us want it to stop completely.
If you can’t talk at the time, need my attention or are getting uncomfortable, give me three purposeful squeezes.
It is worth highlighting that I want the evening to be wonderfully kinky, memorable and enjoyable for both of us. I will not make you do anything that you find really uncomfortable nor anything that you simply do not want to do.
I’m fairly good at reading you by now as well as know what you may or may not enjoy. So trust that I will take very good care of you, just as you look after me so well.
I have a few other things in mind, particularly for the After Party and I’m sure more ideas will come to me during the evening. We can discuss more in person.
Please let me know your thoughts regarding the above requirements. I’m happy to receive feedback and make reasonable adjustments, if need be. Once confirmed, these requirements must be remembered and obeyed. If there are any breaches, disciplinary action shall follow.
Sincerely,
Your Queen
Creating these recommendations and wondering what could possibly occur during our next date at The Ball just added to the excitement and sweet anticipation. I knew that providing S with some further details would help reassure him, since the prospect of attending a kinky, high-protocol event that celebrates Female Supremacy would probably intimidate most men. Leaving him with the requirements to ponder over the week, we arranged to meet on Saturday lunchtime prior to The Ball.
The FemDom High Tea
I thoroughly enjoyed attending the FemDom High Tea last year, a more intimate networking event held the day before the Ball, for around 30-40 of the Ball’s glamorous Glitterati from all over the world. Since I went to the Ball on my own last year, the High Tea provided an excellent opportunity to connect with other attendees at an exquisite and luxurious venue in central London.
Unfortunately, I missed the Meet & Greet the previous day, as I opted for a whirlwind trip, arriving on Friday and returning home to Scotland on Sunday. True to London’s chaotic nature, my flight was delayed and navigating the city on a Friday afternoon was quite the challenge - definitely not for the faint of heart or those on tight schedules!
Running terribly late, I sent a quick message to Madame Caramel, apologising for my tardiness and checking if it was acceptable to still attend despite being at least an hour behind schedule. Her warm and understanding response was reassuring, putting me somewhat at ease.
When I finally arrived at the luxurious venue, I was greeted by the sight of gorgeous and accomplished women seated at elegant circular tables, with tiered trays of delicate cakes and sandwiches beside them. For a moment, I felt like a rabbit caught in headlights as the room turned its attention towards me standing at the doorway as I tried to figure out where I should go.
Thankfully, Madame Caramel, the gracious host, stepped in and guided me towards a seat - which, coincidentally, was almost the same spot I had occupied last year. It was wonderful to see familiar faces and reconnect with some attendees from the previous year, as well as meet some lovely new people.
The Matriarch Ezada Sinn’s Workshop
The Matriarch Ezada Sinn at The FemDom High Tea 2024
Despite my lateness, I was fortunate to arrive just in time for the highlight of the afternoon: The Matriarch Ezada Sinn’s workshop, “The World of Venus: Empowering Women and Shaping a Matriarchal Future.” Her presentation, inspired by ideas from her upcoming book “The World of Venus”, provided valuable guidance and practical tips for Dominant women aiming to deepen their connections with submissive partners.
As a skilled and captivating public speaker, The Matriarch Ezada commanded the room’s attention as she spoke passionately about divine femininity, the dynamics of Dominance and submission, and the transformative power of men serving powerful women. She challenged the stereotype that FemDoms are considered man-hating, focused solely on humiliation and degradation. Instead, she highlighted the profound, healing potential found in men who submit by respecting, worshipping and loving the essence of the women they serve. In this context, submission is not about weakness, but a courageous act of offering vulnerability - something many men may struggle to express in other areas of their lives.
The Matriarch Ezada emphasised that in a patriarchal society, it is a radical act for women to embrace their Dominance and succeed on their own terms. By guiding submissive men to let go, relinquish control and allow a powerful woman to lead, she stressed that we can help them experience deep healing and personal growth. The transformative impact of such relationships extends far beyond the private session; it touches the core of how we, as FemDoms, shape a new narrative around power, strength and respect.
Similar to last year’s Ball, I found myself wishing I had a notebook to capture her inspirational words and the poignant reflections shared by other powerful women within the room. Thankfully, The Matriarch Ezada Sinn graciously provided me with details on the key points of her workshop afterwards, allowing me to accurately convey her insights within this blog. While I’ve adapted the content to suit this post, I’ve included direct quotes from her, along with the practical applications she outlined for each point. Further insights and pearls of wisdom from The Martriach Ezada Sinn can be found on her YouTube Channel: TalkingMatriarchy.com.
The workshop focused on five key aspects:
1. Critical Thinking & Self-Awareness
The Matriarch Ezada emphasised the importance of helping submissive partners reflect on their desires and motivations, especially as a way to unlearn harmful behaviours associated with toxic masculinity. She underlined the importance of understanding the intention behind every action and creating a dialogue with subs to enhance their critical thinking and self-awareness, in order to develop healthier attitudes towards themselves and others.
“Practical Application: Encourage submissive partners to journal after sessions, reflecting on their feelings, desires, and any new insights they’ve gained. By making this a regular practice, you help them grow both as individuals and as submissives.”
2. Conscience, Leadership, and Responsibility
Submission, as The Matriarch Ezada explained, does not mean relinquishing responsibility; instead, it should heighten it. When submissive men are effectively guided, they come to realise that their submission goes beyond personal gratification, rather it’s about actively supporting and uplifting the women in their lives. This principle extends beyond the confines of a D/s dynamic; when FemDom values are applied to everyday life, submission becomes a powerful tool for growth, not just for the submissive, but also for their wider community.
At this point during the workshop, Madame Caramel proudly proclaimed that her husband would only hire women in his company for the next six months. Such an example evidences how the impact of such dynamics can extend far beyond the private realm, serving as an agent for meaningful change in society by championing and supporting women across all areas of life.
“Practical Application: Assign submissive partners leadership responsibilities in specific areas of life - whether it’s taking care of the household, managing specific tasks, or contributing to community projects - all under the direction of the dominant woman.”
3. Emotional Intelligence
Furthermore, The Matriarch Ezada highlighted the important role that emotional intelligence plays in any healthy and fulfilling D/s dynamic. Teaching submissive partners to develop a deeper awareness of their own emotions creates a more authentic connection. Whilst also helping them to better understand the roots of their feelings and how these emotions shape their actions.
“Practical Application: Make emotional check-ins a regular part of your dynamic. After a session or even during daily life, encourage your submissive partner to talk about how they feel, why they feel that way, and how their emotions affect their behaviour.”
4. Shifting Patriarchal Narratives
The Matriarch Ezada spoke powerfully about the need to challenge and reshape the toxic narratives of masculinity that society has ingrained in men. “Submission is often viewed as weakness in a patriarchal context”, she stated, “but under matriarchal leadership, vulnerability becomes a strength.” This shift in perspective is essential for helping men see their submission not as something shameful, but as a source of empowerment. By questioning the rigid gender roles and power dynamics enforced by society, we open the doors for men to explore new ways of being - ones that prioritise respect, vulnerability and emotional depth over traditional notions of masculinity. Essentially, when subs embrace their true selves and let go of outdated ideas about masculinity, it leads to deeper, more authentic connections that benefit both partners.
“Practical Application: Engage in discussions with submissive partners about societal expectations and encourage them to challenge these norms. By questioning the status quo, they become more open to alternative ways of being, leading to personal and relational growth.”
5. Empowerment Through Self-Discipline
The final key point of The Matriarch Ezada Sinn’s workshop focussed on empowering submissives through self-discipline as a vital aspect of their personal growth. As she emphasised “Whether it’s orgasm control, setting boundaries, or following specific rules, these practices teach them that submission is a conscious choice, one that comes with responsibility.”
Ultimately, the power of self-discipline lies in its ability to transform submission from a simple act of compliance into a meaningful journey of personal development. This highlights that being a submissive is not just about pleasing their Domme, but about growing as an individual, finding strength in restraint and learning to consciously choose submission as a path to greater self-awareness and fulfilment.
“Practical Application: Introduce specific tasks that challenge submissive partners to practice self-discipline. For example, you can set rules for orgasm control, making it clear that this is not just about physical restraint but about mental strength and emotional maturity.”
Closing Thoughts
The FemDom High Tea was the perfect prelude to The International FemDom Ball, setting the stage for a truly wonderful weekend. The Matriarch Ezada Sinn’s workshop, along with the contributions from other powerful women in the room, left me with profound insights and practical wisdom, inspiring deeper reflections on the power of FemDom and the transformative potential of submission. Yet, as captivating as the High Tea was, it was only the beginning.
The true magic unfolded the following day at The International FemDom Ball, where opulence, power and kink combined in spectacular fashion. In the upcoming parts of this series, I’ll share some of my highlights, the decadent details and give you a tantalising glimpse into what really went on at the kinky After Party. You’ll certainly want to come back for more…
The next FemDom Ball is scheduled for the 2nd - 5th of October 2025, so be sure to mark your diaries! For an exclusive first look at the next instalment - where I’ll reveal some of the most exquisite moments from the day of the Ball - subscribe to my Loyal Fans page. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this post, so join me there, and let’s dive deeper into the experience together…
